Happy Monday with Adwoa

Sometimes in life, we reach a place that is a vital turning point in our story. A leader of a student fellowship I was a member of during undergrad, called these moments “prophetic junctions”. He described them as times in our lives that provide us with a vital chance to pursue something new or to get to a new stage. But, at the same time, they can be moments that determine whether we spend perpetuity where we currently are or not.

The thing about these moments is that, they have a way of sneaking up on us. Our inability to recognize these critical instances can unsympathetically set us back in life. They could be things that seem insignificant to us now. Then, in some cases, we look back regretfully and we realize we missed out on an opportunity that could have changed everything. I’m sure, like me, you don’t want this to be your story, so let’s take a moment and talk about “prophetic junctions”.

Everyone, for whatever the reason, has a dream of what they would like their life to look like one day. Some of us, have even gone farther to come up with a practical plan as to how to achieve this life they dream of. But, before you can get from where you are to that place that you want to be, there are series of events that occur in the middle. For example, you go and get a Bachelor’s degree in Mechanical engineering. Whilst in school, clubs will be formed, events will occur in and out of campus, you’ll make friends with that quiet Chemistry student who’s a bit of a book worm.

Those events: that club you joined to learn programming, that chemistry student you stayed up all-night studying with, accumulate to bring you a result.

Let’s say on an off-chance, that you start doing national service after school and all those hours you spent in that programming club gets you noticed by your boss. He offers to hire you when service is over and give you a good paying job. What if you had never gone and learned that programming? When you got to that moment where your boss needed some last-minute help setting something up in the office computer, you would not have been able to be of any help.

So, that sounds like a really random scenario right? Guess again.

The things you do today that you thought weren’t significant, are the verge of being the fuel for the things that happen tomorrow, and trust me, they will be significant.

What things then, should we do today?

Well, do the things that you love doing. If you’re into jewelry, take a random jewelry class and learn how to make it yourself. Pursue the things that you desire. If you like a girl, tell her your piece and hope that she reciprocates the love. Let’s not be timid anymore. Let’s not let being unsure stop us. Let’s go out there and let’s do and let’s be and let’s pursue. Here’s to succeeding in those prophetic junctions and happy Monday from a girl born on Monday.

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Happy Monday with Adwoa

There comes a time when you get to a certain level in a thing that used to come easy to you and it’s no longer as easy as it used to be. At that point, what motivates you to keep on going? If the answer is nothing, you either never advance to the next level, as you sink into mediocrity, or you give the thing up all together and lose something that was once dear to you.

Let’s say for example, as a kid you always used to excel in school. Your parents always used to brag about you being first in class. But, when you got to a higher level, your performance changed and you no longer topped your class in every instance.

The issue was not that you suddenly became dumber. The issue was that, as you advanced in school, you advanced in difficulty and instead of applying more effort and resolve into learning what you were being taught, you applied the same effort you did before, expecting the same results. Sometimes, as we succeed, we have to work harder.

It’s so easy to advice another person to work harder isn’t it? It’s a whole different story when you’re the person forced to work harder. The best way to push yourself to work harder, is to find the right motivation.

That was what I was struggling with a few hours ago as I rifled through endless YouTube videos, trying to find a tutorial to walk me through some accounting I needed to do in order to complete my assignment in finance. Calculating and interpreting financial statements isn’t really something I’ve struggled with before. But, I found myself wanting to quit and watch an old movie instead. I could hear myself asking why it was taking so long to do the assignment and I felt like throwing in the towel. But, as I sat down staring at the excel spreadsheet, I envisioned my goals. Then, it occurred to me that it wasn’t about to get any easier. The only way to get to the next point, was to push through this one.

Working at the entry-level is also a lot like this. Before you can reach the glamorous position you might want to get into, you must first do hours of grunt work, and do them diligently. You must prove to superiors that you’re worth betting on. When they finally bet on you, your workload may change but it most likely isn’t getting any lighter. Before you can be a super cool investment banker for example, you have to spend a couple of years working spreadsheets for your superiors.

So, it’s important to know what work is entailed in the goals you’re aiming for. For me, that might mean I cannot avoid accounting if I truly have interest in finance.

Search your interests and goals and see the parts you must put up with. Find something to motivate you. If it’s truly what you want, do not give up easily but work harder towards it. (I’m rooting for you too.)

Here’s to discovery and happy Monday from a girl born on Monday.

Happy Monday with Adwoa

There is one issue in life that, no matter what you do, you’ll find yourself thinking about when you reach a certain age, and that is the issue of what comes next.

You complete high school and you decide to go get a bachelor’s degree in one field or the other with the perception that the degree will be the springboard, possibly, to the rest of your life. Maybe, you pursue a certain field because you believe that jobs in the field pay well, or maybe, you go into a field because an elderly advisor has convinced you that it is your path. You breeze through those years thinking after school, you will never be like those other people who don’t know where they’re going or what they want, no. But, then graduation comes around and you realize you were never truly sure what you wanted to do or if you even did the right degree. Now the question pushes against your forehead even harder.

You’ve gotten your bachelors, what now?

I was this person. I thought I knew what I was destined to become and exactly the field that I would finish school and go into. But, things didn’t happen that way. In fact, they happened completely differently. I left my family and my home on a whim and I traveled to a foreign land where I knew no one to get another degree, thinking after that, I would be well equipped to just go ahead and “be successful”. But, as I was in the program, doing the degree, I realized I had an interest in something else. One thing led to another and lo and behold I found myself here.

Where is here?

Second masters, living in a new place and only just beginning to discover myself. There is the key. There is no magic formula (unfortunately) and there is no right way to go. You can only choose to be fully satisfied with the place you are now and willing to move on to the next chapter when it comes. And if you aren’t, all it requires is to be bold enough to do something else. Let’s be patient and live in this moment together and let’s be bold enough to truly pursue our dreams together. For I am now convinced, that this is the way to discover the direction you go that will truly bring you satisfaction.

Happy Monday from a girl born on Monday.